NO FEAR!

The idea of CharisOnLife has been evolving and growing over the last several years, during some of which I wasn't even quite aware of what was happening.  Life produces a series of action and events that help you along your path to your life purpose.  I struggled for some time trying to figure out exactly what that looked like for me. There were aspects of the roles that I had that I felt fit, others, not so much. This website is the combination of all of those experiences; analyzing each experience at its most basic level, allowing me to learn what intrinsically makes me happy, fills me with purpose, and most of all, leads me to my passion in life.

I always knew that I was meant to help people; they have flocked to me since I was a child. Part of that was because I have that leadership gene -- and yes, I do believe whole-heartedly that leaders are born not made. I have the gift of getting along with just about anyone... the exception being those that are body-snatchers (negative, eat their children, chew you up and spit you out kind of people). I can sense them a mile away, which is another one of my gifts.  I'm an intuitive -- you can't get much past me I'm afraid.

That's part of the reason why transformational life coaching works so well for me. I am able to listen, guide, and help others look at life in what is perhaps a different way than they have done before.  My hope is to rejuvenate people's zest for life and all of its potential by helping them to define themselves differently, positively and with intention.  I want to transform old negative ways of thinking and build a new foundation for which to base the rest of your life on.  Many of us struggle daily with life's trials and tribulations; the secret is to not only weather the storm but to use those instances to make us stronger. When you realize that life is what you make it; what it deals you is only measured by how you react to it. We alone are responsible for the people, the opportunities and the challenges in our lives.

It is all about accountability for our actions and reactions, and how we end up formatting these instances in our minds.  When you take charge of both your life and your thought processes, you free yourself from all of the lower energy feelings that fill your life (anger, hurt, fear, disappointment, worry, stress and hatred).  There is no room for these feelings in a person that has risen to a higher functioning vibration.  When you are able to raise yourself to that higher vibration and frequency, you can achieve a happiness and a peace that you can't possibly have imagined.

Life these days is crazy; it's hectic and people everywhere are struggling to find happiness (however they might define it). Wouldn't you love to be able to reduce the stress, worry and not feel anger and resentment? It is incredibly liberating. The sooner you realize that you alone choose the song that you are dancing to, the partners you choose to dance with, and the steps to which you move to that music, the sooner you can achieve true happiness. We are our own worst enemies.

How would I know anything about any of this?  I have achieved it, in every aspect of my life.  Granted it took me a while to figure it out, but we all have a purpose in life.  We must learn certain lessons before we can achieve that higher frequency and higher vibration, thus achieving happiness and peace.  I got lost in trying to survive for many years, doing what the rest of the world was doing, trudging through the trash thrown in my path.  It was all for a reason.  I guess that is another point to live by: although we choose our paths by our choices in life, we do so because we have lessons to learn and a life to discover. Sometimes we don't learn our lessons the first time around so we have to repeat until we get it right… frustrating?  Yes.  Necessary?  Yes.  Fun?  Not always.

I have been a single parent most of my life, and have raised three of the most wonderful children.  I have been blessed, many times over.  Everything I have done to this point was done because I wanted to provide the best life possible for my children, as I didn’t want them to want for anything.  It was hard, but I would do it all over again in an instant. That being said, if I knew now what I knew then, I would change the way in which I did it in some aspects.  I would stop and breathe, I wouldn't immerse myself in work instead of being with my kids, I would stop the cycle of the rat race, I would love more, and I would be more grateful.

Now I wake up every single day and am grateful for my life.  I am happy, I am peaceful, I have an awesome family, wonderful friends, a beautiful home, and a cozy bed to sleep in.  My fridge is full, as is my table and my heart.  I am hoping that I can help others achieve what I have been able to do… I do believe it is a feat of miracles, finding one's self, as well as, your purpose in life.  If I can save others from some of the things I have had to go through, allow them to do a little side step through life's obstacle course then I will be ecstatic indeed.  I work only with those that are completely invested in changing their lives and in creating their own destinies. It takes a strong person to go within themselves to analyze and be accountable for their lives, and an even stronger one to come out on the other side. Remember there is no place for fear, for where fear resides, success cannot. Let go of fear and embrace what the world has to offer.

Photo: Scott Zielke Photography