Girls Night. Boys Night. So terribly important in the big scheme things and the cause of much happiness and bonding as well as many arguments amongst couples. Nights with your friend pals only means that you have healthy relationships. I never understand when some people as couples don't let their spouse or partner enjoy this. If it's brought upon by insecurities, past disappointments, trust issues, dependency issues, that might be saying more about your and your relationship than that you just don't want your S.O. (significant other) hanging out with their buds. That's an entirely different blog post. However, the point is, it's important to have friend time, whether you rare single or in a relationship. It's important to have others to bounce your thoughts off as well as just having a few laughs. As you have heard me say before, laughs are so important. I'm lucky in that I have different groups of friends, all with different interests, my pals are usually a source of feel good, un-altering support. We all need that. Did I mention positive? I have removed anyone with negativity in their life, right out of mine. Life is hard enough without having a negative Ned or Nelly bringing you down.
I'm lucky enough to be having a gal pal weekend, and am so looking forward to relaxing, working and drinking some lovely cocktails. The best part of it is ... I am now surrounding myself with those positive hard working soul mates in my business life as well. First and foremost because I want to be a shining example of support and pay it forward. That post will be out this week. So ... my gal pal and I will be working together as well, we will be drinking our coffee with Baileys and strategizing about our business opportunities. ( You will learn more about this as well, can't give it all to you at once!)
I've decided to share a blog piece about hanging out, having some awesome bonding time and getting your Ryan fix. I'm going to add a few choice blog pieces I did several years ago, I still enjoy reading them, and I get a kick about how things change. This one did get a ton of exposure at the time I wrote it ... and it forever encapsulated a moment in time in our lives that was really fantastic.
There were a few movies that she wanted me to see that I just haven't had the time, or the inclination to see and she said that we were finally going to make a point of it.
Friday night consisted of The Easy A and He's Just Not That Into You. I laughed my ass off... Truthfully I had never really noticed Emma Stone prior to The Help (which she rocked) but man...I love her... she really is hilarious. The other one...He's Just Not That Into You (I'm pretty sure that I have the title screwed up, but you KNOW which one I'm talking about) OMG for lack of a better terminology. Again...LMFAO. My fave was the psycho clingy chic...I know chics like her AND I KNOW GUYS JUST LIKE THAT. Let's face it, when it comes to relationships, we all are scrambling ALL the time. What works one time, doesn't work the next, and so on and so on. The part about the movie that resonated the most was the underlying fact that everyone shares that two degrees of separation...I don't even think it's six anymore... and that's scary. Truthfully, I can't even get on a plane, or end up in some distance land without running into someone who knows someone who is connected to the VERY small town I grew up in...and at it's best had 800 people in it. Bottom line... don't shit on your own front step. Its true, remember it. On the same note...be careful where you whip for bathing suit top off (thinking that you're liberating yourself in a tropical paradise 6 hours away in the middle f the Caribbean ocean because you will KNOW NO ONE...) you just might run into a couple that knows your parents from back home and they knew you growing up. At my age, should I care, no, but its hard getting past the...they know as that kid, still shocking...more for them than me. I digress.
Okay so back to movie night. Let's hit Movie night number two. After a day of watching play off basketball games for the "Slice" (the youngest of the bio-units) and having to listen to the incessant drivel of the Ex Husband (whom from this point forward I will refer to as FB) while the ex boyfriend (who is still extremely hot) sits between us and they chat...my daughter and I were ready for a bottle of wine and some giggles. We invited one of my many daughters ( the pseudo adopted girlfriends of my daughter) over to join us, Miss J.
1. a bottle of wine each ( now each trying a different Moscato...our new thing)
2. attire: yoga pants, grub gear
3. blankets, pillows
4. sushi: we had already fulfilled the sushi requirement
5. chips and Mama ChaCha's most excellent HIP CHIP DIP
Now the girls were already swooning as RYAN GOSLING3333 was appearing in a starring role in Crazy Stupid Love, the movie they wanted me to see. I was going on and on and on about how He just didn't do it for me, just didn't find him as attractive and dreamy as they did. (Could be because he is WAY to young for this old chic to even be admitting someone his age is hot) They were not only astounded by this, but horrified. I stuck to my guns.
the brown shoes appeared....
He took his shirt off.
I just can't even speak. They laughed as they both knew just at what moment, I would have to cave...yes that was it.
After that everything he wore, everything he did and said...well just had new meaning...seriously...did you see his abs?????? That's just criminal. The girls wiped the drool off my chin, giggled and said MANY times over the course of the movie...WE TOLD YOU SO! Even Steve baby looked hot in that movie. Seriously, it was the haircut, the clothes, the attitude. Like I always say...take pride in yourself, don't let yourself be frumpy... you're not doing yourself or anyone else any favors...don't kid yourself. Again Emma Stone was hilarious...did I mention I love her...she is really talented that kid.
Afterwards, the girls and I finished off the wine and chatted about boys. ALL of our boys. Yes, I'm fortunate enough to be in the loop with all my daughters, bio-unit or adopted, and we get the chance to talk about all of that stuff. I can only hope to pass on some Charis Wisdom that hopefully will alleviate some of the mistakes, mishaps, heartbreak but as well enjoy some of the experience, knowledge, adventures that this old chic has had. It's a great thing. I've been very thankful over the years to be the token "cool mom". Thanks kids.
Bio-unit or not. :)
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